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Never Split the Difference
Chris Voss
How to Win Friends and Influence People
Dale Carnegie
Never Split the Difference
Chris Voss
- Pages
- 274
- Focus
- An FBI hostage negotiator's field-tested techniques for winning any negotiation.
- Best for
- Readers who want tactical, high-stakes negotiation skills they can use in business and everyday life.
- Style
- Tactical
How to Win Friends and Influence People
Dale Carnegie
- Pages
- 288
- Focus
- Timeless principles for building genuine rapport, persuading others, and becoming a more likable person.
- Best for
- Anyone who wants to improve their social skills, build better relationships, and influence others through warmth.
- Style
- Timeless
Similarities
- Both teach that understanding the other person's perspective is the foundation of all influence
- Both use real-world stories and case studies to illustrate their techniques
- Both have sold millions of copies and remain go-to recommendations for anyone wanting to be more persuasive
Differences
- Voss teaches specific tactical techniques from high-stakes hostage negotiations; Carnegie teaches broader social principles from everyday life
- Never Split the Difference embraces strategic assertiveness; How to Win Friends emphasizes genuine warmth and avoiding confrontation
- Voss's methods are designed for adversarial situations; Carnegie's principles are designed for building long-term relationships
Our Verdict
Read How to Win Friends first — its principles are foundational for all human interaction and have stood the test of nearly a century. Then read Never Split the Difference when you need sharper tools for high-stakes negotiations and difficult conversations. Carnegie teaches you to be liked; Voss teaches you to get what you want while being liked.
Read both: 10 hours